Wednesday, June 22, 2011


Tuesday 6/21/11

Thank you, each and every one of you for your support.  I tried to be humorous when writing this Monday's post but I find this situation anything but funny.  The children are angels when I take care of them.  They are wild animals when their mother takes care of them is in charge.

However, the situation may be resolved, for me, because the $#!/ hit the fan Monday morning.  I can't go into what happened, but, I could not tolerate her shocking behavior.  That means that my poor son will probably inherit the problem.

This subject is such a downer, but I wanted you to know how much I appreciate your comments and understanding.  It has helped.  Yes, it has helped, a lot.

Hopefully, this coming Monday, I will be able to get back to my usual goofy self and give you a giggle or two.  Hugs to all..............Karen


  1. I do hope everything works out in the interests of all concerned, Karen! I really admire you for having so bravely stayed with this for as long as you have...your granddaughter needs someone to set her straight on her responsibilities in life and I am very glad to know you put your foot down. By continually accepting her less than acceptable behaviour was not helping her face the facts of her life and HER choices! She needs to be accountable and if she is unable to meet her obligations, then she needs intervention. I feel so much for the Mother of your own son, knowing he 'inherited' this problem by virtue of his marriage, must seem dreadfully unfair to you and I can understand why you felt so helpless...wanting to help out, but at the same time, not really feeling this situation is either his or your doing, which in reality, it isn't! But that certainly doesn't lessen the impact in any way, especially in your case, being as loving and giving as you are and not being able to see your way around the problem apart from taking it on! You are a saint, but you now need to enjoy your OWN time, in your OWN preferred way!!! Darn've worked hard and deserve your golden years to be comfortable :)

    I am sending you LOTS of loving hugs...please stay and be strong! XOXOXO

  2. Desiree said it very well. Hugs and prayers are going you way!

  3. I could not possibly say it better than Desiree. It's time to take care of YOURSELF11

  4. I have a son that feels it is everyone else's responsibility to help him 'grow up' or become 'responsible'. But he just doesn't do it on his own. I finally backed off and said I can't enable him anymore. If she moves in with her Mom and your son, let's hope the mom will realize that she is enabling her also.
    I send you hugs and sorrow for LL. She is wasting a golden opportunity to get her life together. But she has choosen NOT to do that. Her decision, her fairlure. Not yours.

  5. Just remember you can't take of anybody else if you don't take care of yourself kiddo. So make sure you do just that.:)

  6. I know it's hard but you are doing the right thing.
    I am seconding Desirees words here.
    Hear hear!

  7. I am glad that it looks as if you will be getting your life back. I am all for taking care of children...when they are children. But, there reaches a point (let's just pick a number...age 18) when they have to grow up and do for themselves. I left home at 17, and even though I went back a couple times after my car accident, I didn't act as if I was owed anything or take advantage. I tried my hardest, even when I couldn't walk, to not be a burden and to pull my weight. And as soon as I could, I got my own place. Some people are natural born users and will take advantage of every kindness. You are wonderful for helping, it is shame on them for misbehaving.

  8. It may not seem like it, but "tough love" is sometimes the best answer, and someday your granddaughter and her brood will thank you. It's like listening to a baby cry until she figures out how to get herself to sleep, and it can be hard. But worth it in the end :)